Everyone has crushes. Me, you, him, her, they, them - everyone.
What is a crush? Well, to put it simply, a crush is a person that you have intimate feelings for and think that they are very dear or special to you.
I had many crushes before when I was younger and sadly, they did not turn out the way I wanted them to. Basically I got rejected. A couple of times for that matter actually.
No no, no need to feel sorry for me, its okay, I've dealt with the pain already - around four times.
Now that may sound like an exaggeration but its true, I was rejected by four different guys in my life - heck, they may even be one person out there who got rejected more than I did and you should feel sorry and comfort them instead. Although, thinking back these crushes are just, you know, puppy love. I was just a kid.
Now because of the fact that I get rejected a couple of times, I avoid falling for anyone and the reason for that is because I don't want to feel the same pain that happened to me when I was younger. I mean, you become so depressed over one little crush? It's sad but pathetic in a way. Although, to those who did get a chance with their crushes, good on you buddy, you deserve it.
Anyways, where was I? Right, I avoid falling in love because I'm scared to get rejected. I'm scared to get the aching pain that I get inside me. I'm scared that they will say 'I'm sorry,' or 'You're not my type', and this is the moment when your feelings for your crush gets crushed (see what I did there?) Although, I am worried that right now, I'm starting to develop feelings for a certain someone and I won't be mentioning who it is and anyway. But I'm still trying avoid to fall for this person, I'm trying hard!
Yes, there is nothing wrong with having a crush, I mean, its fun right? It's fun in a whimsical, adorable way and it just gives us a bit of nostalgia when we all had crushes on someone when we were younger - whether they are the same gender/age or not - we all had one. Some of us might have one now.
But even though getting rejected is a part of having a crush is the worst thing ever, its still okay. It's okay because you guys could still be friends and when you're friends, you don't need to put much effort in becoming close with them. It's okay because they'll still like you as well - but not in a intimate way. It's okay because someone out there likes you more than your crush does, that someone could be your neighbour, your best friend, your co-worker, a stranger, one of your friends, your classmate, your colleage etc.
And its okay if you're still interested in your crush even when they turned you down, because you can just like them from a far, and that's okay.